第2章 做自己想做的人(2)
Be Confident
Oh yeah， you might as well get a head start on your confidence. Be-lieve in yourself no matter what.Don't let self-doubt ruin your chance to meet a new girl or to try something new.
I know I just said that girls aren't going to like you anyway， but that's not entirely true. While you are accumulating the wisdom that comes with life experiences， your best shot is to project confidence.
Always act like you know what you're doing， even if you don't. The biggest turn-off for a girl is self-doubt.If she still doesn't like you， take it with grace and move on quickly.
Don't start doubting yourself if you get turned down. You're going to get turned down a lot before you finally get the girl.
Don't Get Attached
When you finally do get a girlfriend， take it easy. Along the same line as not trying to grow up too quickly， don't fall into the trap of thinking that this is the best girl you'll ever get.The second biggest turnoff for a girl is an 18 year old guy who's already thinking about marriage.
当你有所积累之后，旅行、艺术、文化、运动和冒险都会有一种不同的新面貌。你一层层地叠加起来，每种经验都会比上一次来得更加丰富。
比物质享受更重要的是经验
如果你面临这样的选择：改善你的生活（自己的公寓、一部新车、一套新衣服等），或者是减少工作时间去经历更多的事情，那么我建议你选择后者。
当我在你那个年龄的时候，我曾认为只有拥有许多物质才能让女孩子喜欢我。于是我努力地为拥有物质去工作，结果却是因为我太忙而没有了时间去结识女孩子。
埋头工作是成年人的事情。尽可能延长和享受你的青春吧，即使这意味着你要和室友共享一个公寓，并且在镇上骑着自行车乱逛。
另外，女孩子们在那时候总归不会喜欢你的。她们真正想要的是一个有自信、有生活经验的男人。而埋头工作只会推迟这一天的来临。
要自信
是的，你要建立自信。不管是什么一定要相信自己。不要让自我怀疑毁了你去结识女孩子或者尝试新东西的机会。
我知道我刚刚说了女孩子们不会喜欢你的，但是也不尽然。当你从生活经验中积累了智慧之后，你的撒手锏就是展现你的自信。
一定要表现得知道自己在干什么，就算你其实不知道。对女孩子而言，最扫兴的就是自我怀疑。如果她仍然不喜欢你的话，要从容地接受现实然后向下一个目标出发。
不要在被拒绝的时候开始怀疑自己。追求成功之前你总是会遭遇无数次的拒绝的。
不要被束缚
当你有了女朋友，不要太紧张。这和不要急着长大的道理一样，不要过早地认定这就是你一生的最爱。对女孩子而言，第二扫兴的事情就是一个18岁却已经考虑结婚的人。
Relax a little and enjoy the moment. Besides， you're going to have several girlfriends before you find "the one." How are you going to be able to know what you want if you don't have anything to compare it to？
As you get older， you'll naturally become more attractive to women. I had no idea this was true when I was your age.I thought that I was as at-tractive as I'd ever be.Not true.
It gets easier， I promise.
Don't Get a Credit Card
If I didn't get a credit card when I was your age， I would have saved myself 10 years of financial struggle.
I know it seems like you have to be a grown up and have nice things， but you've got to think long-term. If you can just have the patience to hold off a few years on the nice stuff， you'll be able to afford more of it than you can imagine.
Buying something today on credit because you can't wait will impact your financial situation for years to come.
Simply have the mind to save up for what you want to buy. If you buy with cash， you'll always own what you have， and be free to do what you want.
When people build up debt and monthly payments， they become slaves to their job. They have to work to pay for all the junk that they put on their credit cards.
Put Money Away Every Month
Take this advice and you'll never regret it. Open a savings account and set up an automatic withdrawal from your checking account each month.Don't touch the money， NO MATTER WHAT！
Even if you can only afford$10 a month， you must stick to this plan because it's your ticket to freedom. In five or ten years (whenever you de-cide to grow up)， you'll use this money to invest in something that makes passive income， like real estate.
轻松地享受当下。另外，在找到真命天女之前你可能会有好几个女朋友。如果没有可以比较的参照物，你如何得知你究竟想要什么呢？
当你日渐长大，你会很自然的对女性越来越有吸引力。我在你那个年龄的时候完全不知道这事情。我认为那个时候的我是最有吸引力的。这是不对的。
我保证，这会随着时间而变得越来越容易。
不要申请信用卡
假如我年轻时没有申请信用卡的话，我能够减少10年的财政困难。
我知道你认为作为一个成年人应该物质生活要丰富多彩，但是你要从长远来看这件事情。如果你能够有耐心为更优渥的物质生活多等几年，你会诧异地发现你能够过上更好的生活。
如果只是因为你等不及了就刷信用卡购物的话，这将会对你接下来许多年的财政状况产生影响。
只需要为你想买的东西存钱。如果用现金付账的话，你会一直拥有你拥有的，并且能够自由地去做你想做的。
当人们有了债务开始分期付款的时候，他们就成为了工作的奴隶。他们不得不为那些用信用卡刷出来的垃圾而工作。
每月定期储蓄
你接受这个建议就绝对不会后悔的。给自己开一个零存整取账户，然后每个月存入一定的数额。不论发生什么事情，都不要去碰这一笔钱。
就算每个月只能存入10美元，你也一定要坚持，因为这是自由的门票钱。五年或者十年内（当你决定成人的时候），你能用这笔钱去投资一些能带来收入的东西，比如房地产。
Travel and Learn a Language
Don't just take language classes and backpack around Europe at a fu-rious pace；immerse yourself in a culture. Pick a place and stay there for several months.
The best time to do this is the year after you graduate from college. You'll be old enough to appreciate the experience， but young enough that you won't have any responsibility.
If you took my advice about taking your time to grow up， you won't yet be attached to a mortgage payment， a job， or a girl. Move all your stuff into a corner of your parent's basement and live abroad.
It's actually a lot more affordable that you might think especially if you don't have any expenses at home. Get a job in your chosen country if you need to.
Don't allow yourself to hang out with other English-speaking people. That's too easy.Force yourself to learn the language.It will be frustrating at first， but the life-long benefit will be greater than you can imagine.
Keep a Journal
Get a Moleskin Notebook and carry it in your back pocket wherever you go. Don't be a perfectionist with it；just jot whatever comes to your mind in it.
Having a journal will help to solidify your thoughts. The act of writ-ing helps to close the circle of ideas from your head to your hand and back to your head.
Plus， you'll have a record of your thoughts for generations to come.
Get to Know People
As you travel and try new things， make it a point to meet people. As I said before， the most valuable things in life are shared experiences with other people.
There is so much you can learn from people. Open your mind and take in different perspectives.Put yourself in their shoes and try to under-stand why they think the way they do.
Your success in life will depend on your network of people. It's im-possible to achieve success in a vacuum.You never know what opportuni-ties will present them when you meet new people.
旅行袁并且学习一门外语
不要只是参加语言学习班，并且背包游玩欧洲各地。你应该使自己沉浸在一种文化里。选择一个地方，并在那里待上几个月。
这件事最好在你刚刚毕业那一年的时候做。那个时候的你足够成熟去欣赏这个过程，又年轻得没有任何责任要去负担。