第12章 设计自己的人生
Design Your Own Life
佚名 / Anonymous
One of the so-called realities of growing up is the resignation and acceptance of what is or is not possible in our lives. Consider how many times you have been told or have said to yourself “Now be realistic...” OUCH！！！Realistic based upon what？ The expectations of society？ The fears of our parents who wanted to “save” us the pain of unmet expectations and failure？ The capacity and capability of our friends and siblings？ Now being realistic can be a way of managing your expectations and making sure you are safe， however it can also be a great excuse not to risk and a marvelous story of why you should not even try in the first place.
Something that I have discovered in the past decade of working with thousands of people is that many people will not even allow themselves to dream. I find it difficult to image the dull ache of denying one of our greatest capacities as human beings， the ability to manifest and co-create our reality.
Have you been lowering your wants or blocking your dreams， passion and vision？ If that is true for you， for the next 5 minutes I am going to ask you to not be realistic， to not censor your wants， dreams and desires. Just allow yourself to be free with your thoughts and feelings in order to answer the following question.
What do you want？ What do you want to be， do and have？ Live on the beach， travel round the world， start a family， start a business， create a loving relationship， learn another language， become a millionaire， retire， play， teach and share what you know， express your creativity... What do you want？ Allow yourself to go past the surface answers and get to what it is that you truly want.
As the picture becomes clearer and clearer， I want you to grab a piece of paper and title it “My Ideal Life”. Write down your ideal life， where you are， how you feel， who you are with， the quality of your relationships， what you do with your time and how you express your unique contribution to the world. Do not just turn the page or think about it in your head， actually take some time to consciously design your life and the experiences you want to create. The sad truth is that most people spend more time planning their wedding day than they spend planning their lives！Your written ideal life becomes your blueprint to manifest everything you want to be， do and have in your life. Read and review our ideal life daily. Share it with others. Ask for support and begin taking steps toward making it a reality NOW！
When it comes to manifesting your dreams， I believe that Richard Bach said it best， “You are never given a wish without also being given the power to make it come true. You may have to work for it， however.”
一个所谓的“成长的现实”就是对你生命中的可能与不可能的顺从和接受。想象一下你对自己或别人对你说过多少次“现在现实点……”天啊！现实的基础是什么？是社会的希望？父母想减少我们与期望的结果失之交臂或失败的痛苦，那是父母的担心吗？还是我们朋友和亲人的才能和能力？而今，现实是管理自己的期望和确保自己安全的一种方法，然而，这也是我们甚至不敢去尝试一次冒险，或一段非凡经历的一个很好的借口。
在过去与成千上万人的交往过程中我发现，很多人甚至不允许他们自己去梦想。我发现，很难去想象人类拒绝自身最伟大的能力时，那种钝化的疼痛，那是人类证明和共同创造现实的能力。
你曾降低你的希望或者束缚你的梦想、热情或想象吗？如果你这样做过，接下来的五分钟里我要求你别太现实，别删剪你的需求、梦想和渴望。只要任随你自己的思想和感情来回答下面的问题。什么是你想要的？你想成就什么？想做什么？想拥有什么？在海滩上生活、周游世界各地、建立一个家庭、创建一份事业、开始一段恋情、学习另一种语言、成为一位富翁，然后退休、游戏、育人、分享你所知道的、传递你的创造力……你想要什么？让自己的思维跳出肤浅的答案，想想你真正想要的是什么。
当你脑海中的画面变得越来越清晰时，我希望你能抓住其中的一页，并在上面加上标题：我的理想生活。写下你的理想生活，你在哪里？感觉如何？和谁在一起？你们的关系怎样？你怎样打发时间？你怎样描述你对世界的贡献？不要仅仅是翻过这一页，或者只是在你的头脑中思考这些。事实上，你应有意识地抽出一些时间来计划一下你想创造的人生和阅历。悲哀的是，大部分人用更多的时间来计划他们的婚礼，而不是他们的生活！你书面的理想生活将会实现你的每个需求、希望和所有的蓝图。每天都读一读、温习一下你的理想生活，和别人一起分享。从现在开始寻求帮助，迈出向它挺进的步伐吧！
当你的梦想开始实现的时候，我坚信理查德·巴赫对此的话语是最贴切的：“若你未被赋予实现梦想的能力，那么你将永远不会被给予希望。不过，你或许可以为之而努力。”
记忆填空
1. Now realistic can be a way of managing your expectations and making you are safe， however it can also be a great not to risk and a marvelous of why you should not try in the first place.
2. I find it to image the dull ache of denying one of our greatest capacities human beings， the ability to manifest and co-create our .
3. and review our ideal life . Share it others. Ask for support and begin taking toward making it a reality NOW！
佳句翻译
1. 在过去与成千上万人的交往过程中我发现，很多人甚至不允许他们自己去梦想。
2. 你曾降低你的希望或者束缚你的梦想、热情或想象吗？
3. 悲哀的是，大部分人用更多的时间来计划他们的婚礼，而不是他们的生活！
短语应用
1. Just allow yourself to be free with your thoughts and feelings in order to answer the following question.
allow…to：根据法律拨（款）给；给（钱）与
2. The sad truth is that most people spend more time planning their wedding day than they spend planning their lives！
spend more time doing：花更多时间做某事