第13章 和自己沟通

Power of Self Talk

佚名 / Anonymous

Ace in the Hole

Understand these new words or phrases before you read this article.

1. dangle ['d？？ɡl] v. 摇晃

2. ameliorate [？'mi：lj？reit] v. 改善；减轻

3. gregarious [ɡri'ɡε？ri？s] adj. 社交的；群居的

4. distress [di'stres] n. 危难，不幸

Life is like a big swing， dangling between the depths of happiness and sadness. As soon as we descend down the slope of sadness， we accelerate over the ever-feel-good acclivity of happiness. At times of distress， when we are down we slip over an abyss of emotional trauma and frustrations.One who can rise above the occasion， is the architect of many wins over sorrows.

To come above tougher times you have to pep yourself up， when you are feeling low， lost and confused. This can be done effectively by self-talk. Self-talk is a way of talking to oneself. It can be effectively used for soul searching. When talking to ourselves， we hardly lie as our conscience controls our speech. Self talk is efficient because when we are vocal about our thoughts， it makes a larger impact on our mind. Our brain then receives the same message from the mind as well as the ears. This repetition of pep talks and thoughts fine tunes the performance of the brain.

Self-talk is a software， which when properly loaded onto our mind directs ourselves for better results and a healthy mind.

Actually many times in our life， we find others advising us to do better in studies， sports， life etc. We usually get bugged by these people and blank our ears out of their constructive suggestions. It is because it doesn’t come from within us. And when something comes from within you， you always try your best to do justice to it. Self-talk can thus ameliorate our status.

Each one of us has some good points and some bad ones. Though we hardly admit in public， we know in our mind that we could do better in some areas of our personal landscape. This get-better attitude can be converted into a practical reality using self-talk.

If you are an introvert and you want to be the gregarious person like you friend next door， all you need to do is talk to yourself. Tell yourself with all the sincerity and emotions that “I can be like him. I am a natural born speaker. I do like people and speaking comes naturally to me. I just have to be ready to listen and speak”. Suppose you love a person and want to tell him or her， then just say to yourselves “I love her with all my heart. She is the only one and I know it. If I don’t let her know， it would be grave injustice on my part. Every person loves to be loved. Even she will”. These are just some examples I have explained. It’s up to you to program your own mantra.

If you are highly optimistic to do better， there is no better motivator than self-talk. So guys start talking.

生活如同一个摇摆在快乐和悲伤之间的大秋千。当我们处于悲伤的下坡时，又开始向快乐的上坡进军。沮丧时，我们会伤心地跌入绝望之谷，能摆脱这种困境的人是战胜悲伤的胜者。

当你感觉情绪欠佳时，失落和困惑之感便会油然而生，此时是你最困难的时期，用自我交谈的方式能有效地鼓舞自己。自我交谈，事实上就是和自己说话，它能有效地探索灵魂。与自己说话时，谈话受良心的支配，使我们很难撒谎。自我交谈能有效地了解自己的想法，强烈地影响我们的思想。我们的大脑如耳朵一样会接收来自思想的信息，反复鼓舞的话语能对大脑的反应进行有效的调节。

自我交谈是一种软件，当它被适当地装入我们的思想时，便能指导我们得到好的结果并拥有健康的心态。

事实上，别人常会建议我们在学习、体育运动和生活等方面做得更好。我们总会对他们的唠叨感到厌烦，对他们建设性的意见充耳不闻，因为那些声音并非发自我们内心。若它们发自内心，我们就会全身心投入进去。所以说，与自己交谈能使我们的现状有所改善。

每个人都是优点缺点兼而有之。我们不愿在公众面前承认，我们也知道自己个人生活的许多方面是可以做得更好的。这样会使“通过自我交谈能使我们趋于完善”这一观点在现实生活中得以实现。

如果你性格内向，想和邻居、朋友一样成为善于交际的人，你需要做的就是和自己交谈。诚挚而满怀感情地对自己说：“我能和他一样，我是个天生的演讲家。我的确喜欢人们，喜欢随心所欲地与大家畅谈。我必须时刻准备好聆听或发言。”如果你爱一个人，并想让他或她知道，那么就告诉自己：“我全身心地爱她，我清楚，她是我的唯一。倘若不让她知道，这对我来说不公平。每个人都希望得到别人的爱，她也不例外。”这不过是我举的一些例子，如何去表白由你自己决定。

若你对做好一切很有信心，那没有比自我交谈更好的激励方法了。因此，开始交谈吧。

Seize Your Yime

According to the speech， match each of the following verbs with its

meaning.

(1) dangle a. psychological suffering

(2) ameliorate b. hang freely

(3) gregarious c. to make better

(4) distress d. living together

Practicing for Better Learning

Please fill in the blanks with the proper words according to the given

sentences.

1. He works hard to _ his family’s poor circumstances.

他努力地工作以改善家庭的穷困。

2. His face looked rigid with_.

他的脸因悲痛而显得僵硬。

3. His great arms _ loosely at his sides， the palms of his hands open.

他的一双粗大的胳膊软绵绵地垂在身子两旁，手张开着。

Now a Try

Do you usually have a self-talk？Does it do any good to you？